30 weeks pregnant with twins
Granted, it was easy to excuse the use of the word ‘Fetus‘ during the 1st trimester. No problem. I understand what day and culture I live in.
I was stunned, appalled, and angered all at once. ‘
Fetus‘. Was she talking about my child ‘ the one that I have been bonding with for 30 weeks now. Surely she didn’t mean the baby inside of me whose movements I could now distinguish ‘ kicks from rolls, hiccups from exploratory prods, and tickling, pressing feet beneath my ribs from elbow and knee jabs. Surely not. Though I wanted to slap her, as my husband later so kindly reframed, she had surely been in school too long.
I understand that it’s easier to have a choice if one keeps their distance with rather cold and scientific labels. I don’t like it, but I get it. But at 30 weeks. Really. Even an abortion at 24 weeks is considered late ‘ and rather cruel in my opinion ‘ so why on earth would a doctor continue calling a baby a ‘Fetus‘ at 30 weeks. I’m just saying.
Let’s put the issue of gestational development aside for a minute and simply focus on the pregnant woman who needs an abortion. (I know.
My friend recently had a baby. Her pregnancy was difficult. She had gestational diabetes as well as preeclampsia. Her baby was delivered at 30
Weeks because there were problems with the placenta. Despite all of those challenges, my friend’s baby went home from the hospital yesterday. Unlike many of her neighbors in the NICU, my goddaughter has had no complications. Her lungs have developed and she can breathe on her own. Her brain is developing normally. And although she was only 2 pounds when she was born, this little fighter is up to 5 pounds now. I see lots of courage and fist pumping in this girl’s future.
I know. always putting the woman first. .) Abortions cost money. It may take a woman several Weeks to scrape together the money to pay for an abortion. What happens if she’s at 21 Weeks of pregnancy instead of 20. If she lives in Oklahoma, she’ll have to go out of state to get an abortion ‘ raising the cost even more and delaying the date of her abortion even further. This is only one explanation for why women obtain late term abortions (one that 60% of women who obtained late term abortions cited as the reason for delaying their procedure), and it’s a very valid reason.
Great question, do children make us happy. I think the answer is that it depends on what you put into it. There are so so so many things that the media romanticizes about childbirth and child rearing, and we dummies fall for it hook line and sinker’ (just one example: I didn’t realize I was in labor and already almost 6 cm because it never looked the way it did on TV.
This begs the question ‘ why do we treat new mothers as if they have just won a prize. Having a baby is surely cause for celebration ‘ but those first few days and
Weeks are NOT a walk in the park and many times people forget that a newborn isn’t representative of the ‘family’ you always dreamed of (in my case, I dreamed of family vacations with elementary-aged kids who walk and talk, not so much alien-looking newborns). It’s not an automatic wish fulfilled ‘ it’s a complete life-changer that turns everything you knew upside down and inside out. Surely, the extra lumps and bumps left on our bodies, the lack of sleep, the new responsibilities, the shift in priorities, the milk leaking from our breasts and the sounds of crying that permeate our homes is enough to make you want to run away’ so why is it that we shove these images aside and focus instead on a bliss and happiness that eludes most of us.
My sis, who just happened to stop by and see my condition, dragged me to the hospital and I was so convinced she was wrong that I never even brought the bag that I so meticulously packed for Weeks before.) And don’t even get me started on the utter horror that I felt when I realized that the hospital staff was actually going to let me leave, unattended and unsupervised, with my own BABY… 3.5 years later I am getting to a place of zen with motherhood, but it has honestly taken me that long to come to terms with the sheer amount of sacrifice the position demands. I loved him unconditionally from day 1, I was lucky not to have PPD but I got a very unhealthy dose of PMDD that lasted about 2 years. I stopped ovulating completely (long after I stopped breast feeding) because I honestly believe my brain said ‘no more.’ and my body agreed. I thought more than once that my husband would leave us because, well, who would choose this life after being given the taste. After all, he wasn’t committed the way I was (still feel this to some degree). And I struggled and struggled with the complete loss of freedom, freedom I never realized I had until it was so unceremoniously taken away.. But it does and it did get better with time, and as much as I sometimes think that I might make a different choice if I had it to do over again, I know in my bones that I wouldn’t every single time this kid wraps those skinny little arms around my neck.
A.) “Partial-birth Abortions” is a medically and legally inaccurate term. B.) My personal belief on late-term abortions should not be reflected in the law. It should be left up to each individual woman’s (or couple’s) moral compass, along with a doctor, no matter how squeamish late-term abortions make me.
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C.) I am always somewhat skeptical of people who supposedly witnessed several abortions, were disgusted, and yet stuck around a few more years for it. I don’t doubt the legitimacy of where they were, but their motives and intentions are obscured and hidden, and this makes me wary of much of what they say about their experiences. However, if she says she saw then, then she did. But this doesn’t change my belief int he above post. You see, you are speaking of late-term abortions, wherein the potentiality of personhood has increased with the continuation of the pregnancy. But the above anti-choice groups in Louisiana want to make a fetus at 8 weeks equal in personhood and value as a Fetus At 30 Weeks. They want a fertilized egg, microscopic, with no development at all, to equal a fetus at 8 weeks. Do you see the problem. Birth control could potentially be outlawed, endangering women every single time they have sex. And don’t say “well then they shouldn’t.”. Bikes and cars are dangerous, but we have added protective measures over the years, such as seat belts, helmets, and crumple zones. If they took out those safety measures, would you stop driving all together. What about work. School. Groceries. It would also put every women who ever has a miscarriage of a wanted pregnancy under scrutiny. Not exactly fair to women, is this. The fact is this: Fertilized egg<8 wk fetus<30 wk fetus<woman.
During the hearing itself, King was forced to defend his decision to have it, as most of the testifiers warned against the slide into McCarthyism. Minnesota Rep. Keith Ellison, the first Muslim to be elected to Congress, stole the show by crying as he told the story of 23-year-old paramedic Mohammed Salman Hamdani, who became the subject of speculation that hed collaborated with the hijackers after he disappeared on 9/11.
I, too, am an angry white man. Angry that Rep. King is toying with our national security for the sake of political theater. Tired of the right giving weight to this Muslim stereotype when Rep. King need only look as far as his own colleague, Rep. Ellison, to see what is beautiful about America. Furious that Rep. King ignored a bomb scare up here in the Pacific NW ‘ allegedly planted by a white supremacist, because it didn’t fit into his narrative. And few things burn me up more than blaming babies for our problems (economy, jobs, broken immigration system) and proposing to strip American children born in America of their Constitutional rights to citizenship.
It turned out that he was actually among the first responders who died in the towers. Hamdanis mother, Talat, went to D.C. several Weeks ago with other family members of 9/11 victims for a scheduled meeting with Peter King, but he stood them up.
Right on. This is why I keep thinking that the zygote zealots are trying to legislate their mothers into loving them. That this is why they’re so obsessed with trying to stop women from having abortions.
Love can’t be forced. If a woman doesn’t really want to have a baby, those feelngs probably won’t really go away, even in those cases where she subsequently develops an attachment to the baby. Deep down she’ll be even more disturbed, angry, and resentful because of what she was forced to go through. It’ll get even more twisted because any woman with a heart, if she also loves the child, will also feel guilty because she didn’t want to have it. How to cope in this intolerable trap. Denial. People who go into denial often play the other side really well. ‘Look what a devoted, loving mother I am.’ Hey ‘ if they didn’t have something to hide, they wouldn’t have to display that self-righteous motherhood all over the place like I’ve seen so many condescending ‘Christian’ women do. But the child will feel the hidden truth and what do they likely grow up to do. Deny and continue the bullshit.
It’s like so many psychological behaviours that people keep doing if they haven’t come to terms with the deep unconscious (or subconscious.) pain that they’re trying to alleviate by acting out the behaviour. Instead of fixing their problem they end up re-creating the same kind of circumstance that hurt them in the first place. Over and over again. A woman who doesn’t really want her child but carries it to term transmits what, to that child. And how does that affect the child throughout his or her life. But the child isn’t aware of the feelings that they are obsessed with trying to alleviate because the transmission of unwantedness took place while they were in the womb and their memories weren’t, well, memories as we know them. Read more on Fetus At 30 Weeks
39 weeks pregnant
I feel like I have a foreign object tucked under my shirt. Like someone literally stuck an oversized basketball in there. It gets in the way, it rests on my lap when I lean forward ‘if I can manage to lean forward, and it’s as hard as a rock most of the time.
Among the most embarrassing uneasiness experienced by expectant women is the passing of terrible gas during Pregnancy. When a woman is pregnant, the slowing down of the passage of food in the guts, and the uterus crowding against other abdominal organs including the large intestine, makes it hard for the woman to have parameter of bowel movement. The number of time that the solid food stays in the gastrointestinal tract gets substantially longer, allowing gas more time to build up.
I totally empathize ‘ I was exactly the same way when I was pregnant with my first baby. You just have absolutely no idea what to expect, so it’s totally normal to compare. And I was even that way after I had my first baby ‘ have I lost the weight fast enough, am I doing the right things with her, etc.
Morning sickness as it is widely known tends to affect some preggers as soon as two to eight Weeks of having conceived. An uneasy tummy could be felt during early dawn that doesn’t necessarily end in vomiting or throughout the day or even during dusk hours. A providential few don’t go through these experiences while others feel nausea all through their gestation.
The benefits of non-public ultrasound exam reads employing Animations along with 4D imaging moves beyond the actual enjoyment factor. The usage of this sort of check may identify birth disorders that 2nd may not be in a position to get. It really is far more likely to discover defects like VACTERL relationship, spina bifida, cleft top and palette and problems using the coronary heart, liver organ, liver along with voice.
I’ve been having some time away from the blog…. and all of a sudden I’m 30 Weeks. It feels like no time at all…
30 Weeks Pregnant | Allen Jesson January 4, 2012 | 
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